Why -

Why do I want to complain when I am feeling hurt or miserable? Surely not because I want to be patted ("there, there") or need some advise? I meen a good advise would be OK, but when did I (or anyone else) follow it? As a naive homemade psychologist, that's what I think:

I need a validation that the way I perceive reality is correct. This is really the way I see it, and it is unfair, and I have "the right" to be hurt. Another reason - sure as soon as something is expressed it is already imprecise or plainly wrong, but when it is not - it does not completely exist yet.